How to Ask Me What My Ethnicity is Without Being an Asshole

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    At first I thought I hadn't heard him right, "sorry?" I asked as I stood up in hopes of better understanding my classmate who had decided to yell something at me from across the room. "What kind are you?" he repeated as the rest of my classmates at his table looked on at me with shared curiosity. I stared at him blankly, frenzied with a mixture of disgust and disbelief. I even did the slow blink thing people do when they don't understand something, or in my case because I couldn't believe someone just asked me what my ethnicity was in such an insensitive way. Most of the time when I tell someone I'm from Kansas they give me an inquisitive look and then proceed to ask "but where are you from, from?". Most of the time where someones from is where they grew up and spent the majority of their life. Here's the thing, yes I was born in China, but I grew up in the United States. I have no recollection of my one year old life in China, I was a baby. I'm from Kansas. I'm from Kansas City. If you want to know my ethnicity, ask me "I don't want to assume, but could I ask what your ethnicity is?", ask me at an appropriate time and don't be an asshole about it, don't use it as an opening line to flirt with me (I will pour my drink on you) and don't yell "what kind are you?" at me from across the room because I will write about you.

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